Some children may easily feel embarrassed when faced with a new situation. This is actually fairly normal and natural. But so that the little Shy nature does not interfere with his social life, parents need to help grow their courage.
Actually, there is nothing wrong if Little has a shy nature. Shy children are usually more independent, wise, and easy to empathize. It's just that children who are too shy can experience difficulties in living their lives. Come on, Mother and Father, help your little one overcome the shy nature in him.
Tips for Growing Courage in Shy Children
Although it is common in children, there are actually other factors that can cause a child to be shy, such as imitating the nature of parents, not taught to socialize early, victims of abuse (bullying), and are always required to be the best in everything Thing.
Actually shy kids might want to socialize, but they often feel scared, doubtful, and don't know how. Keep in mind, the role of parents in forming the child's character is very important.
Here are a few things that Mother and Father can do to develop courage in a shy child:
1. Encourage children to talk about things that make them embarrassed
Shy children generally feel reluctant to tell stories and display their abilities. Therefore, try to invite the Little One to pour out his heart, in order to find out what makes it easy to feel embarrassed.
That way, Mother and Father can determine the right way to encourage his courage and fight the shame he feels.
If parents are able to listen to the hearts of children, your child can also feel they have a place to express their feelings. This will gradually help him to be more willing to communicate with others.
2. Don't call a shy child
Even though he is shy, but avoid calling him "a shy child", because he might be really sure that he is like what people say to him. Also tell the people closest to him not to say the same thing.
Instead, Mother and Father can encourage him to be more courageous, through affirmative and supportive words, every time he tries to do new things, like "wow, Mother's child, hero and brave, huh? Great!".
3. Avoid scolding children
When children begin to appear shy, Mother and Father should not necessarily scold or make fun of him. Do not also force him to do what he feared. Try to understand his feelings first.
Position the perspective of Mother and Father, as the Little One looks at people and the environment around them. Slowly explain to him that there really isn't anything he needs to fear. Mother and Father can also give examples of how to deal with situations that your child avoids.
4. Put the child in a social situation
Parents can come down directly to help children get along with their friends. For example, during a school event, Mother and Father can start conversations with their friends and lure Little to interact with them.
5. Build self-confidence
Build his courage to interact with strangers. For example, telling him to order food he wants to the waiter when eating at a restaurant, or give him money to pay for groceries at the cashier. Parents can also hold small parties at home and invite their friends and parents.
6. Show confidence in front of your child
Be a good example for children. Usually children like to imitate what parents do. Now, when Mother and Father often greet neighbors when they meet on the street or be friendly to others with confidence, Little One might be able to imitate him.
7. Give praise
When a child succeeds in showing confidence or manages to greet others, Mother and Father can give him appreciation, in the form of praise. That way the child feels that he has done the right thing.
Overcoming shyness in children can not be done in an instant. So, parents should also not force or scold when Little is still a shy figure and has not been able to be brave according to parents' expectations.
Mother and Father are encouraged to remain patient in encouraging Little to be brave by being an example and setting an example for him. If the shy nature is very excessive, Mother and Father should consult a child psychologist to get the right solution.
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